Any advice on what to do next in the marriage?

I'm in the army and my wife and i split at the end of dec, and we havnt talked barely any until oh so recently. we both put our anger to the side and we have civil talks to each other. well i saw on her facebook by one of her friends that she had here at my duty station let me see her fb. i read the comments on how she loves me so much and cant let go, and how sorry she is, and regretful. that was back in jan.





however there is another guy she meet couple years ago that we went to high school with. well i saw the comment he put on her pics on her myspace, and everyone has had asked her if she is seeing him, she has said no, and she wouldnt dare lie to her best friend. besides he is like 4 states away and currently deployed. I cant see his pics but my gut tells me she left some comments her self on him too.





but everytime i talk to her, i tell her how we can work our issues out, tell her how great things are going here except she is the missing part, everyone misses her, how i am giving her a great life while being in the army. she lashes out at me and gets a attitude when i talk about the relationship, she said she wants to be friends and not talk about it at all.





i told her i will not and can not sign the divorce papers, she said she doesnt want it either but it something we must do. she also said that we cant be saved. lol but the ';issues'; we have are minor, we know people who have had bigger issues and she fails to see that. i know she misses home and moved back a few states down from here. but my mother-in-law still talks to me, and loves me as her son still, but said doesnt want to get involved. i know she put the blame of everything on me naturally to her entire family.





what should i do? dont call her or text her again and let it take it course? does she really want the other guy? i feel half the time she doesnt and half the time she does, but after seeing what she says to other people i dont get that feeling. i mean this is a big story and i can go on further, i'm just touching on key parts. you think she'll consider coming back?








additional note:





she got in a car accident, told me a month later about it, said she didnt tell me cause of her ';safety'; i mean c'mon i never ever did anything harmful to her, AND GUESS WHAT?! The damn military, i.e. ME bit the bill, paying her therapy right now, and everything else. PLUS she gets $636 a month from me, which is ordered by the army. i told her i'm feel like i'm being used if you dont wanna work on things but wanna reap rewards and says give her 4 months to get on her feet, get a job, and get back in school. argh i dunno where to go or what to do anymore at this point far in.





We are talking nicely often now, and we have our laughs. From what I can see she cut off most communication with the other guy. When we talk, we both enjoy it and she says just dont talk about the relationship right now. I told her I'm going to toss out the divorce papers or mail them to her, let the ball be in her court you know? She hasnt gave an answer yet. Also I've read some comments on her facebook by a friend, which said she misses me and its hard.





Also my mother-in-laws tell me she talks about me a lot, and she is trying to get herself right and her heart. They may be hope right?Any advice on what to do next in the marriage?
Honestly it sounds like she is in my situation and she does not know what she wants. If she really wanted to work on things and fix things she would not be keeping things from you especially important things like the car accident.





Also when other people are involved its not good. My soon to be Ex has been in contact with his Ex for years now behind my back and sometimes right in front of me and its way too hard to let go of the anger that is there because of those situations.Any advice on what to do next in the marriage?
She may be use you or she may be loves you. Find out! You are the man! Just dont accept refuse about conversation for your relationship. Make her speaks