Marriage???

Ok me and my bf have been dating 2 years and we have been talking about doing it for a long time and we know we will eventually but lately ive been really wanting to get engaged. like im excited because some of my close friends are planning their wedding how can i just calm down? He dosent know ive felt this way i dont want to rush him to ask because i know he will in the next 2 years or so Oh and im 20 years old and hes 22Marriage???
Great question! There is something that I swear by and it's simple pshyc 101, Distance and Pursue. It's a fact that if you pursue someone they will distance, it's like a dance. You guys have been together long enough to know that it's gonna happen for you. I know how it feels to want that big day and you will have it, but let him bring it up!!! My son is 29, gorgeous, successful and a great catch! He has been seeing a girl for a couple of years on again, off again. I know what's happening, she's a good girl, really cute but oh so clingy!!! Bad!!! Well he finally told her to call him in 2 or 3 years, I guess we know what that means! My advice is to be sweet, be yourself, but when you get the urge to push stop yourself! You are in control and in the words of the smartest woman I know (my mom), ';Don't ever chase a Man';! One more thing, let all your friends have their weddings, wait for a lull or pick a time of year that is slow time, like November this way baby, you will be in the lime light!!! Oh, one other thing about u calming down, don't think i'm goofy, Meditate, do deep breathing every night and if you catch yourself getting anxious about this, switch gears!! Go spend time with someone that you won't feel compelled to talk about this with. Maybe like a Grandparent, give something of yourself to someone else. It will calm you down and brighten a day for another!! Good Luck, hon!Marriage???
It's definetly exciting! I'm sure he'll ask eventually. Until then get more involved in your friends' weddings and stuff and have fun with that. You could talk abotu it with your bf and just reassure him that your not trying to rush him your just excited with all the wedding happenings going on around you.
the best thing to do is just let it happen dont presure him into doing anything or make him feel presured just take everything one day at a time and im sure everything wil work who knows any way you never know he could take you to your favorite reasturant or some place you love and ask you their it will be so romantic wouldnt you rather not know when he is gonna do it or where just be patient
It's good that you want to get married. I would encourage him to stop waiting, because that really isn't healthy. More young people should get married, I think. Whatever you do, please include your family in your decision. Check out ';Getting Serious about Getting Married';, by Debbie Maken. She has some really helpful insight. Good luck!
You're too young to get married anyway. If you do, please get premarital counseling and BE SURE you are ready, not just excited about a wedding. The wedding is the least important part of a marriage. I would hate to see you divorced in a couple years.
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I think you have a right after two years to make the engagement official ... when he escorts you to one of the weddings you might explain to him that being BF/GF is getting a little cumbersome ...





You should be able to talk to him openly about all this!





Hope that helps,





Bill
You guys are really young and waiting a little bit might not be such a bad idea. Just because you're friends are all getting married doesn't mean you need to start hounding your man about it. go at your own pace and your special day will come eventually
Marriage is not something you should do just because others are doing it. You should be financially, emotionally and physically prepared for it.
wow u been together 2 years and havent done it yet thats amazing
just be excitied for your friends.. when hes ready, he'll do it. just be patient and enjoy life right now.