Tuesday, August 10, 2010

How to ask my boyfriend if he want to marry me?

i have been living with my boyfriend for 11/2 year but he never talk marriage with me n it my dream to get married. all my friend are getting married n my parent keep on asking me n i keep on saying soon we r planning but it not true. i dn't know how to start this conversation with him.can u help me. thank youHow to ask my boyfriend if he want to marry me?
if youve never spoke of that kinda thing in over a year of being together then it doesnt look good for you at all!


all of my boyfriends have mentioned starting families and stuff in the first 6 months... even if they havent asked me they have spoke about it.How to ask my boyfriend if he want to marry me?
your first mistake was in moving in with him without any understanding of marriage or engagement plans. he has no need to marry you when you are already giving him all he wants or needs from you.





but since the deed is done, you should just go to him directly and tell him you want to talk about getting married. tell him your parents are asking you what your plans are and you need to get the matter straight with him.





if he tells you he is not ready to committ to marriage, ask him why and don't settle for anything silly. he needs some really good reasons why he doesn't want to marry you but is willing to enjoy the pleasures of living with you.





if he has reasons like money, needing a house, needing a better job, etc...then tell him you don't need those things to marry him and want to go ahead and start planning your wedding. if he still wants more time then tell him to work out a plan for working on those things and set a goal of 1 or 2 years to get them accomplished.





there is no sense in you waiting around for him to bring forth a romantic proposal if your parents are already anxious about this issue on your behalf. you can believe when i say that parents have a nose for this kind of thing and are most likely pressuring you because they have real fears that this guy is not going to marry you at all. so go ahead and find out...if he has no intention of marrying you, then you need to know it so you don't waste anymore time with this relationship. here's hoping the best for you.
If after a year and a half you don't feel comfortable bringing up the subject then I don't think you're ready to be engaged/married.
Honestly, I don't know how he will react but just ask him. I asked my fiance and found out that he would have proposed to me ages ago, but felt he didn't have enough money to give me the ';the'; ring. If I were you I would just make him a nice supper, and after your meal just ask what he thinks of marriage, or come right our and say, ';will you marry me?'; what ever is more comfortable for you. You never know, maybe he is just as nervous about the subject as you are. Also, you can use your parents as a way of bringing it up, say... ';My parents keep asking when were going to get married, isn't that funny?'; and see what his reaction is, maybe he will surprise you.





Hope things work out :)
First of all, I think you need to ask yourself whether you want to marry him, or whether you just want to get married and he happens to be the best available prospect. Your friends getting married and your parents dropping hints are not good enough reasons for you to do it; the right time is when you and he agree that it's right, and the fact that you can't stand up to them and tell them the truth is troubling.





If you're sure that he's the one you want, then you have to be able to talk about the future: both what (if anything) would need to change in your lives to make getting married feasible and what it would take to make a marriage between the two of you work in the long run. And you have to be prepared if it turns out he doesn't want to or won't be ready for a long time; if you're too afraid to face that possibility, then you're not ready, either.
He needs to man up and grow a pair and ask for your hand in marriage. C'mon.





You should have a plan.





What I mean by that is you should set a healthy boundary in your mind. ';If it doesn't happen in X number of months, it's over.';





Too many of my lady friends have been in the same position as you, only they've waited anywhere from 3 to 11 years and still nothing!! And some of these women are now out of child bearing range.





Don't do that. Don't allow *anyone* to waste your valuable time.





Set a reasonable, healthy boundary.





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Just ask him about the f word. future. how does he see his future? are you there? Ask him. If he says that he wants to still be with you then at least you know that when you ask him he'll say yes. Don't ask him in front of people just when it's the two of you. Maybe do something like in the morning or just before going to bed like put a ring box on his pillow with a message inside that says will you marry me?
You're too immature to even think marriage if you can't even communicate with a man you have lived with for more than a year.





My advice would be to move out, gain independence, grow up, get an education, work on your career and see where life takes you.
ok you love him and you live with him so just ask him. if you can't by now say what you want with him, this doesn't sound very healthy.


Maybe he thinks you have all the commitment you need, because you live together and it seems you have never brought up the subject before. Perhaps he is waiting for you to say something, men can be shy about this sort of thing.





just ask outright, you'll get an answer, and you will be able to decide what to do when you hear it
Just ask him to sit down because you want to talk to him about something important and take it from there.





Good luck anyway.
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