What are some solid questions to ask yourself when thinking about marriage?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 9 months, which isn't very long but in that time we've been through so much together. He's had opportunities to be there for me as I have him, so we've shown each other that we're in it for the long haul. He makes me laugh more than anyone I've ever met! We're best friends and I think we are in love! I'm also now 8 weeks pregnant with his baby. He's dropped the M word a few times lately as have I. How do I know if he's the one?What are some solid questions to ask yourself when thinking about marriage?
Solid Questions:


1. Do we share the same Faith? If not, can we come to a solid consensus of things we both believe? What beliefs do we want to pass on to our children? If it's not important now, what happens if it becomes important to one of us on down the road?


2. Do we share the same views on Money? Am I a spender or a saver? What is he? How do we feel about credit card debt, car payments, homes, or keeping up with the Joneses? What sorts of things is it acceptable to go into debt for? What sorts of things are not?


3. Where do I see myself in the next 5 years? What are his goals and dreams for the next 5, 10 years? are our goals compatible? Do we both want to retire in the same way? Does he dream of the beach while you dream of NYC? Would you both be happy as clams living in a log cabin in the mountains?


4. Child rearing. How was he raised? How was I? What are my beliefs about discipline, and are they compatible with his view? Will we spank, will we give an allowance, will we buy the first car or make the kids work for it?


5.Education. How would I like for my children to be educated? Public school, Private School, Homeschool? Under what circumstances would each be considered? How flexible are we in changing? Are we going to set aside money for college? Who is going to help with homework or which subjects?


6. Politics. Where do I fall in the political landscape? Where does he? Do we have the same values and opinions? What direction would you like to see the country go in? How serious do you think each of the issues are?


7. Cheating, Substance Abuse, Other Abuse. What are the ramifications for each of these things should they come up? Make your decisions now, they'll be easier to stick with later.


8. In-Laws and holidays. How involved are the parents now? How involved would you rather they be later? Is my boyfriend the type to ';go running to mama'; every time we fight? Am I? Can we keep our disagreements between us?





Last question. Think of your very most beloved family member. Think of your boyfriend. If they knew the things that you know about him behind closed doors (and no, I'm not talking about sex) would they be pleased with this person? Is this someone they would have chosen for you, if they had the chance?





God Bless You in your quest. Remember, nothing is insignificant when you are thinking of spending the rest of your life with someone. Pray, Think about all of these questions, and seek the advice of those who know you both. But follow your gut ~it's almost never wrong if you are truly listening.What are some solid questions to ask yourself when thinking about marriage?
A baby a marriage does not make.





Add: Okay here's one:





Will I have health insurance once I get married so I can get on birth control so I am not a baby making machine?





Is that good enough for you?
Do I feel good when I am with him?


Do I feel respected by him?


Do I trust he will always to the right things in life?


Do I think he'll be an excellent and supportive father?


Do we laugh together?





8 weeks pregnant is putting the cart before the horse. Best question for that is ';Would I choose him to be the father of my children?'; (your gut/ inner voice knows- listen carefully)
You got pregnant by this man and you think you're in love.





There is no ';The One.'; If this man treats you well and you are going to have a baby, you should try to make it work. That does not mean marriage right away but perhaps soon after the baby is born. That will be about a year and 1/2 of being together.
Lets see...youre pregnant ....so its LIKE you two will be married anyways---a little backwards but hey some people get confused
Going to be tough to figure that out now that you're already pregnant. Just going to have to take a wild guess! But if you're both feeling marriage, then I say go through with it.
Hi Pippi,





Below are some questions you may wanna ask yourself:





1. Do you really love him?


2. Do accept him for he is? If there are some of his traits that bother you, you cannot make him change.


3. Are you ready to commit yourself to him?


4. Is he as committed as you to the relationship?





Remember: You must take responsibility for your actions and decisions. Do not rush into marriage. There's no reason to hurry.
nobody can tell you it will stay like it's between you two forever, cause things can change or stay as now. Just do what makes you feel happy and if there is things that's not 100% talk about it and work on it from both sides to make it better. Marriage is hard work from both sides and there is no guarantee that all will stay as at beginning forever without consideration and hard work
does your heart ache for his return as soon as he leaves the door? if yes, he is the one..


people you love when they're gone, you're constantly lookin out the window for their return..


9 months isn't a long time, but some people marry within even shorter period and last longer than most marriages now a days..


you know when he's the one.. it's the small things he does that makes you see how you could live with him for the rest of your life...
I don't mean to be rude, but aren't you doing this backwards? First you fall in love, then you get married, then you have children....and I don't mean that in some religious or judgemental way...it's just that that seems to be the recipe for a steadier and happier life.





You think you are in love...is not a good reason to get married. Nor is a baby.





You'll have to figure it out....and be absolutely sure.
Am I mature enough to make a lifetime commitment?


When we hit a bump in the road, will we work together to smooth it out instead of just giving up?


Do we have the same long-term dreams?


Are we well matched in terms of lifestyle?


Will our families support this marriage?


Will he make a good father?
First you should ask yourself if you are indeed, in love. You said that you think you are in love. If you are ready for marriage you don't think, you know. 9 months is a pretty short time, but I must admit, I knew we would get married after 9 months.





You mentioned being pregnant (which I have no problem with, btw), so I must say that you should ask yourself if that is the only reason you are considering marriage now (I'm not implying that you are, just going with the info given). Do you think you would be thinking about marriage right now if you weren't pregnant? If the answer is yes, then ok, but if you don't think you would seriously be considering it, then you should wait a while.





Another thing to ask is if you can really see yourself with him forever. Do you see the two of you working through things and enjoying each other for the rest of your lives? Do you know his stance on important things like where you will live, how finances will be dealt with, religion, child care/discipline, etc.





Also, are you done dating? Are you done being curious about other people? Do you care that he will be the only person you will be with for the rest of your life?





All of these should be relatively easy to answer, hope I helped :)
after reading that other post you need to ask about sex and if they will be kinky or even oral. i must have missed that too late now