I don't know what to do ? i feel so helpless ... i can focus on anything .. how do i approach her mother?

i and one girl are totally in love with each other ... shes a girl of brahmin caste and a south indian... i m a north indian and of vaisya caste ... recently the girl told her mom everything ... her mom called me and told not to speak to the girl anymore and threatened me even ... but we have been secretly speaking ... through the help of our mutual friends ... yesterday the girl called me and said that its over ... she cannot go against her mother ... she told that she is breaking it off ... because she cannot go against her mothers wish ... i somehow asked what happened through a mutual friend ... and its like her mother is saying that ... she has no objections ... but she would never accept our marriage and she would never see me or enter my house ... she can visit her mother , but she would never come ... my girl is very very simple ... she gave into her moms wishes and called me up and said that it cannot work out ... she cannot go against her mother ... her mother mentioned that she does not like me ... she has never actually met me ... but ... she probably does not like me because ... i courted her daughter ... treating her out to lunch , and i have her photographs ... her mom was like ';this shows your character ... learn to respect a woman first '; ... probably this is where it went wrong ... the fact that i took her to lunch and have her photo got a bad impression of me ... i guess her mother totally does not approve of this ... i had no idea that having some photos and taking the person you love so much out for a good lunch is such a bad thing ... one more reason she stated was the cultural and caste differences ... i know that it will never be an issue .. my girl also knows that ... because we both are willing to adjust... i m madly in love with this girl ... she too loves me very very much ... but she does not want to go against her mom ... her mother does not even want to speak with me ... i have tried many times ... i dont know what to do now ..., i really do want to marry this girl ... i want to make her my wife .. but i m not able to even directly contact her ... what do i do ... what do i say to convince her mother ... there has to be a way of convincing her mom right ? ... how do i approach her mother ?.... please help me out ... how do i convince her mother that i m not a bad guy ... i genuinely care about her daughter and we both are truly in love and its not infatuation ...I don't know what to do ? i feel so helpless ... i can focus on anything .. how do i approach her mother?
what????I don't know what to do ? i feel so helpless ... i can focus on anything .. how do i approach her mother?
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Perhaps you can prove to her mother that you are not a bad guy by going out of your way to be a good guy. There are several issues here that must be addressed.


You and your girl friend are swimming upstream in your effort to be together and to add to your dilemma you must also go against the mores and customs of your girl friend's mother's beliefs. This will be a challenge to you two, but, if you are both truly in love with one another then your love will prevail. You seem to want to respect her mother's wishes and are confronted by her mother's old fashioned ways which you must respect up to a point. If there is a compatibility between you and the woman your love then love will keep you together. Somehow through all of this the two of you will have to convince her mother that she will not be losing her daughter. Seek spiritual guidance throughout this problem and right will prevail.
one thing brother,





Are you a job holder? will your earning are sufficient to you and your wife and also to your children?


what about your family?i mean, do u have any unmarried sisters? or she(your girl) had any sisters in her family?





One thing is, both of you are in true love. but with the fear of her mom, she is not willing to say OK with you. hey what about her dad? whats his opinion?





One more way is, direct approach from your parents. if they agrees your love, and if they approach her family, then no doubt her mother will accept. Even if (least case) your MIL does not accepts, she will definitely comes with you. because of your family support.





My sincere advice is, not to approach the friends... approach your parents to go things in proper channel.