How do you deal with an obsessive father willing to ruin your marriage?

he puts mental and emotional pressure on both of us. nothing else.How do you deal with an obsessive father willing to ruin your marriage?
Your farther is playing the role he has been playing for all your life. When this role is threatened his ego Will do almost anything to protect that role as life without that role feels like a kind of death to it. Its a very difficult time for him having to see his role as your protector and ad-visor whittled away and many of us have problems letting go, some call it Empty nest syndrome but in essence its like grief to his heart. If you are aware of his actions in a conscious way that will certainly help the problem and explain this to your husband also and then you can at least feel some sympathy which is better than you both meeting your Fathers force with more force which will only end up with you be estranged from him which will make you piggy in the middle between husband and dad and guilty too. So after you have very firmly and calmly told your dad that you are married now and you are happy and that he needs to fully accept that you should put some space between your dad and you and allow him time to think and feel. He he comes around then excellent , if he does not then you must deal with that then and not right now.How do you deal with an obsessive father willing to ruin your marriage?
You and your husband need to sit down with him and tell him that ';we are together and that is it, and you are either with us or against us';





That is if your husband is the sit down with your family type if not then you need to listen to your father.





All parties need to meet in the middle.








You can always forget about your father as part of your life, you owe him nothing.
tell him that he is pressurising you. by ruining your marriage, he is ruining your happiness. sit down with him, with your partner if you wish, and try to get him to explain why he is putting pressure on you. if he comes up with no appropriate motive, tell him to stop.
The ultimatum is, ';Dad, if you cannot keep yourself out of our relationship, we will have to move away and limit our contact with you. If you don't want this, then it's up to you to recognize your proper role as a parent of a married adult child.';
...move away and don't let him know where you've gone !





...you've got to know when to hold'um, know when to fold'um, know when to walk away and know when to run !
Move away and assert your right to live the way you like.
Move away.